Walau berseri indah permatamu
Tak bisa menawan hatiku
Akan kulontar pujuk rayumu
Bentak hatiku
Lenyaplah sudah rindu kebanggaan
Yang ku semaikan dibatas hatimu
Dulu sekarang berlumba kemajuan
Bukan berkasih sayang
Cintamu dulu bagaikan umpan
Yang menunggu mangsa yang kelaparan
Kau tak hiraukan keikhlasan
Hanya permainan
Rinduku ingin kedamaian
Bukan hanya mengusik kerinduan
Kuharap janga kau abaikan
Permata kasih suci
Tak kuhiraukan dalam kepanasan
Biarlah pedih dari sinaran
Namun tak mudah kau panahkan
Kasih yang kau umpankan
Cintamu dulu bagaikan umpan
Yang menunggu mangsa yang kelaparan
Kau tak hiraukan keikhlasan
Hanya permainan
Rinduku ingin kedamaian
Bukan hanya mengusik kerinduan
Kuharap janga kau abaikan
Permata kasih suci
Tersedu kudalam khayalan
Menanti berteman keraguan
Kau kini dalam belaiannya
Baiduri oh kau pergi
Rinduku ingin kedamaian
Bukan hanya mengusik kerinduan
Kuharap janga kau abaikan
Permata kasih suci
Monday, December 26, 2011
Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Sikap Manusia Zaman Sekarang..
Diharap anda akan membaca cerita ini dari awal hingga habis.. memang epic kisahnya
today i met the absolute representation of the idiots that we should get rid off from this country if we are ever to even DREAM of reaching vision 2020…
i have been observing the people in Malaysia for the past months i been home, and i must say i am not liking what i see. through a myriad of factors intermingling together, including the economic prosperity enjoyed by the middle class and upper class society, many of them comprising of sons and daughters of govt officers (and i am not always proud to say, I myself is a member of this group) we have created a new class of people, who have appointed themselves and regarded themselves as the “elite” Malay group.. (note the inverted comma)
and these are the youth who walks along the street with a certain kind of swagger and pompous arrogance with their proud shirt with the humongous ‘horse and number/roman numeral’ emblem on their chest.. yes u know which brand of shirt i’m talking about.. ooh not forgetting their fancy rust dyed hair and their huge shades, and cargo pants. and usually they’ll be walking in pairs proudly holding hands, gee i sure hope they are married, bulan puasa pon tak reti nak hormat? hmm…
today i met a group of these people, and they were rudely harassing a makcik at a stall at pasar ramadhan.. yes, granted it was hot, and there were a lot of people around the stall, for sure laa the makcik cannot layan everyone immediately.. but these group of people, who always think they are better than other Malays, by the virtue they can afford more stuff (paid by dad of course) apparently dah x tahan sgt nk kene tunggu lama were throwing rude and unneessary comments to the makcik… stupid arrogant people..
“haih makcik, kalau tak reti nak layan orang cepat2, baik jgn bukak gerai” said one of the skinny idiot, while holding the hands of his girlfriend, and this unnecessary comment was greeted by laughter from a few more youth, 3 boys and 2 girls, apparently they were all in the same group..
the makcik, displaying some hurt on her face teruslah melayan si kumpulan Melayu ‘elite’ ini.. and apparently got the order of these idiots wrong..
“makcik, i said two laa, two! T-W-O.. dua! D-U-A… dua! adoi.. dh laa lambat, x reti bahasa inggeris pulak tu rupanya, cakap ‘sorry’ pon td tergagap2.. haih, kan elok if science and math ajar in english, makcik ketinggalan zaman!” and the group laughed again..
i could see the makcik was very ashamed and offended, and suddenly i was offended, coz that couldve been my aunt, my grandma, my mother! Think about it, what if that happened to somebody in YOUR family…
so naturally, me with my recently discovered hot head and temper, decided to defend the makcik..
(this is an attempt to recreate the conversation as best to my memory as i could, pls be reminded that i was temporarily insane and blinded by rage, hehe)
“hoi, yang korang ni ingat korg mcm bagus nk mampus ni apahal? bley tolong relax tak kalau nak kutuk2 org pon, pahala puasa tu entah campak ke mana” i said with a stern voice, and oh yes it turned a few heads.. the group was stunned for a bit, then the idiot-leader had to reply..
“oi brader, ni bukan hal lu so baik u jgn masuk campur, kalau tak…”
“kalau tak apa brader, ko nak tampar aku? tumbuk aku? and aku plak tak kan laa nak biar laa ko kutuk makcik yg x bersalah ni lebih2?” yup, i was reeeealllly geting to be pissed off..
“eh bro, jgn cabar aku” said the idiot-leader while his gf was pulling him back asking him to stop, and the rest of the group konon2 nk tunjuk kuat closing in on me..
“1st thing 1st, aku bukan ‘bro’ ko, and 2ndly, tolong simpan jaguh2 kampung ko ni, mintak maap kat makcik ni.. yg ko mcm bagus kutuk2 makcik ni x reti bahas inggeris tu pehal? ko ingt english ko tu bagus sgt?” i was really pissed by now..
“eh yg ko berani nk marah2 aku ni pehal? ko ingt bapak aku ni org biasa?” the idiot leader replied.. gosh, they all look like they were about 18/19 years old.. arrogant 18/19 year olds who still turn to daddy in moment of need..
at that moment i knew that this was the group i was talking about, the self-appointed ‘elite’ Malays, the family where the mom and dad made good money, but forgot to teach proper manners to their offspring, and their offspring thought they were better than other Malays, esp those they regard as coming from the kampung.. just because daddy could afford to send them to private college doesnt make them better than the others!
“owhhh bapak ko bukan org biasa? habis dia apa? org minyak? org bunian?” i personally liked this line best, and judging from the laughter of the crowd behind me, so did they.. haha how did i come up with that in the heat of the moment i wonder myself..
“just because ko ni anak org yg ada kuasa, n tahu sepatah dua english, please please la jgn ingt ko tu lagi bgs dari makcik ni, or the rest of us ok? sedar sikit diri tu, manners gone down the bloody drain! urghhh u make soo mad! people like you just makes me sick! dah aku nyer pahala puasa pon dh ke mana ntah sebab aku dok menengking org2 mcm ko ni.. sila jgn perasan ko ni omputih dgn dressing ko n rambut dye laa, jam mahal laa” by now, there was a sizeable crowd against us..
for some reason, the idiots were quiet, i guess they were shocked, and ashamed coz they know they did wrong.. and i overheard this from someone behind me..
“kalau kulit putih mcm abg baju hijau ni ok laa gak, ni kulit sama jek sawo matang mcm kitorg, tp perangai lebih2 dari omputih la plak” and yes, i was the one who he referred to as ‘abg baju hijau’.. lol~
with his face red, and heavy breathing with a pissed off face, he walked off slowly as he was pulled by his gf and his group.. while a group was chanting “belah, belah, belah” to the group.. and as they left, the group clapped.. and the makcik thanked me for standing up to her, and i got some free kuih from her as a sign of her gratitude.. hehe.. thanx makcik!
but i did it not for the kuih, or for the attention, the praises.. i did it coz i cant stand this group of people, who think they are better than the rest of us! come back down to earth please~ and when i wrote this, i AM NOT targeting all polo shirt wearing hair dyeing tindik sana sini people, and also those who comes from a well-to-do family, i know that 99% of u are polite people who knows the boundaries of joking about, and are humble people with kind hearts.. but this 1%, you ppl are the bane of society, and bring shame upon other Malays.. i’m sorry if i offended anybody, but this entry is written with the purpose of reminding us all to be humble, and not to insult others.. your medical degree, tertiary education, overseas scholarship, all these do not make you better than other people, and all these mean NOTHING if you don’t have manners, or basic respect for others..
do unto others how u wud expect to be done on urself, and respect begets respect..
p/s: sorry again for the negative tone of the entry..
peace out~
today i met the absolute representation of the idiots that we should get rid off from this country if we are ever to even DREAM of reaching vision 2020…
i have been observing the people in Malaysia for the past months i been home, and i must say i am not liking what i see. through a myriad of factors intermingling together, including the economic prosperity enjoyed by the middle class and upper class society, many of them comprising of sons and daughters of govt officers (and i am not always proud to say, I myself is a member of this group) we have created a new class of people, who have appointed themselves and regarded themselves as the “elite” Malay group.. (note the inverted comma)
and these are the youth who walks along the street with a certain kind of swagger and pompous arrogance with their proud shirt with the humongous ‘horse and number/roman numeral’ emblem on their chest.. yes u know which brand of shirt i’m talking about.. ooh not forgetting their fancy rust dyed hair and their huge shades, and cargo pants. and usually they’ll be walking in pairs proudly holding hands, gee i sure hope they are married, bulan puasa pon tak reti nak hormat? hmm…
today i met a group of these people, and they were rudely harassing a makcik at a stall at pasar ramadhan.. yes, granted it was hot, and there were a lot of people around the stall, for sure laa the makcik cannot layan everyone immediately.. but these group of people, who always think they are better than other Malays, by the virtue they can afford more stuff (paid by dad of course) apparently dah x tahan sgt nk kene tunggu lama were throwing rude and unneessary comments to the makcik… stupid arrogant people..
“haih makcik, kalau tak reti nak layan orang cepat2, baik jgn bukak gerai” said one of the skinny idiot, while holding the hands of his girlfriend, and this unnecessary comment was greeted by laughter from a few more youth, 3 boys and 2 girls, apparently they were all in the same group..
the makcik, displaying some hurt on her face teruslah melayan si kumpulan Melayu ‘elite’ ini.. and apparently got the order of these idiots wrong..
“makcik, i said two laa, two! T-W-O.. dua! D-U-A… dua! adoi.. dh laa lambat, x reti bahasa inggeris pulak tu rupanya, cakap ‘sorry’ pon td tergagap2.. haih, kan elok if science and math ajar in english, makcik ketinggalan zaman!” and the group laughed again..
i could see the makcik was very ashamed and offended, and suddenly i was offended, coz that couldve been my aunt, my grandma, my mother! Think about it, what if that happened to somebody in YOUR family…
so naturally, me with my recently discovered hot head and temper, decided to defend the makcik..
(this is an attempt to recreate the conversation as best to my memory as i could, pls be reminded that i was temporarily insane and blinded by rage, hehe)
“hoi, yang korang ni ingat korg mcm bagus nk mampus ni apahal? bley tolong relax tak kalau nak kutuk2 org pon, pahala puasa tu entah campak ke mana” i said with a stern voice, and oh yes it turned a few heads.. the group was stunned for a bit, then the idiot-leader had to reply..
“oi brader, ni bukan hal lu so baik u jgn masuk campur, kalau tak…”
“kalau tak apa brader, ko nak tampar aku? tumbuk aku? and aku plak tak kan laa nak biar laa ko kutuk makcik yg x bersalah ni lebih2?” yup, i was reeeealllly geting to be pissed off..
“eh bro, jgn cabar aku” said the idiot-leader while his gf was pulling him back asking him to stop, and the rest of the group konon2 nk tunjuk kuat closing in on me..
“1st thing 1st, aku bukan ‘bro’ ko, and 2ndly, tolong simpan jaguh2 kampung ko ni, mintak maap kat makcik ni.. yg ko mcm bagus kutuk2 makcik ni x reti bahas inggeris tu pehal? ko ingt english ko tu bagus sgt?” i was really pissed by now..
“eh yg ko berani nk marah2 aku ni pehal? ko ingt bapak aku ni org biasa?” the idiot leader replied.. gosh, they all look like they were about 18/19 years old.. arrogant 18/19 year olds who still turn to daddy in moment of need..
at that moment i knew that this was the group i was talking about, the self-appointed ‘elite’ Malays, the family where the mom and dad made good money, but forgot to teach proper manners to their offspring, and their offspring thought they were better than other Malays, esp those they regard as coming from the kampung.. just because daddy could afford to send them to private college doesnt make them better than the others!
“owhhh bapak ko bukan org biasa? habis dia apa? org minyak? org bunian?” i personally liked this line best, and judging from the laughter of the crowd behind me, so did they.. haha how did i come up with that in the heat of the moment i wonder myself..
“just because ko ni anak org yg ada kuasa, n tahu sepatah dua english, please please la jgn ingt ko tu lagi bgs dari makcik ni, or the rest of us ok? sedar sikit diri tu, manners gone down the bloody drain! urghhh u make soo mad! people like you just makes me sick! dah aku nyer pahala puasa pon dh ke mana ntah sebab aku dok menengking org2 mcm ko ni.. sila jgn perasan ko ni omputih dgn dressing ko n rambut dye laa, jam mahal laa” by now, there was a sizeable crowd against us..
for some reason, the idiots were quiet, i guess they were shocked, and ashamed coz they know they did wrong.. and i overheard this from someone behind me..
“kalau kulit putih mcm abg baju hijau ni ok laa gak, ni kulit sama jek sawo matang mcm kitorg, tp perangai lebih2 dari omputih la plak” and yes, i was the one who he referred to as ‘abg baju hijau’.. lol~
with his face red, and heavy breathing with a pissed off face, he walked off slowly as he was pulled by his gf and his group.. while a group was chanting “belah, belah, belah” to the group.. and as they left, the group clapped.. and the makcik thanked me for standing up to her, and i got some free kuih from her as a sign of her gratitude.. hehe.. thanx makcik!
but i did it not for the kuih, or for the attention, the praises.. i did it coz i cant stand this group of people, who think they are better than the rest of us! come back down to earth please~ and when i wrote this, i AM NOT targeting all polo shirt wearing hair dyeing tindik sana sini people, and also those who comes from a well-to-do family, i know that 99% of u are polite people who knows the boundaries of joking about, and are humble people with kind hearts.. but this 1%, you ppl are the bane of society, and bring shame upon other Malays.. i’m sorry if i offended anybody, but this entry is written with the purpose of reminding us all to be humble, and not to insult others.. your medical degree, tertiary education, overseas scholarship, all these do not make you better than other people, and all these mean NOTHING if you don’t have manners, or basic respect for others..
do unto others how u wud expect to be done on urself, and respect begets respect..
p/s: sorry again for the negative tone of the entry..
peace out~
Monday, February 21, 2011
Skrip Berulang
Ini bukan lagi isu terpencil!
"Saya dan dia sudah kenal lama... kami mahu berkahwin tetapi keluarga pihak lelaki tidak bersetuju. Dan sekarang kami sudah terlanjur dan ingin bertaubat."
"Kami sudah bertunang... dia sebenarnya seorang lelaki yang baik. Tetapi akhirnya kami tewas dengan desakan nafsu masing-masing."
"Pada awal jumpa dengan saya dia seorang lelaki yang baik dan hormati saya. Pertemuan kami yang pertama di Shopping Mall. Selepas dua tiga kali bertemu kami tidak melakukan hal terlarang melainkan hanya berpegangan tangan. Selepas itu, dia minta lebih. Awalnya saya bertegas, tetapi layu dalam pujukan dia."
Itu komen-komen di blog seorang ustaz. Dan sekarang pula cerita di akhbar tabloid negara.
Seorang mangsa, Rozie, 20, dari Ampang tidak menyangka perkenalan dengan seorang jejaka melalui laman sosial Facebook bakal menjadi titik hitam dalam hidupnya. Katanya, menerusi laman sosial itu, Boy dilihat seolah-olah tidak mempunyai ramai rakan perempuan berikutan tiada kenalan wanita dalam senarai sahabatnya. "Ini menyebabkan saya menganggap Boy bukan kaki perempuan dan boleh dipercayai. "Kami bertemu buat kali pertama apabila dia mengajak saya ke majlis hari jadi rakannya," kata Rozie yang jatuh cinta dengan Boy yang bersopan-santun dan pandai menjaga hatinya."Di tempat kerja, saya kerap diganggu lelaki, tetapi Boy pula sering mengambil berat dengan menjaga saya daripada diganggu mereka," katanya yang bertugas sebagai pakar kecantikan di ibu kota. Akibat terlalu percayakan lelaki itu, Rozie mengandung hasil hubungan terlarang mereka selepas setahun menjalin cinta.
Itulah satu daripada ribuan cerita liku kehidupan masyarakat pada masa sekarang. Denga hanya internet penyambung hubungan. Allah, Rasul, keluarga dan maruh ditolak ke tepi. Semuanya atas nama cinta.
Sungguh mereka tidak mengerti untuk membezakan apa itu CINTA dan apa itu NAFSU.
Kasih Rasul Terhadap Wanita
Dalam sejarah umat, insan yang paling kasih dan cinta kepada wanita ialah Rasulullah s.a.w. Tidak sedikit usaha, teguran dan tindakan yang dibuat dalam menterjemahkan perasaan cinta Baginda terhadap kaum hawa ini. Tetapi sering kali kita mengabaikan bahkan memperlekehkan nasihat Baginda.
"Islam ini kuno. Itu tak boleh, ini tak boleh. Tension tahu!"
"Mak ayah aku pun tak bising... yang kau bawa al-Quran dan hadis segala ini buat apa. Sikit-sikit Islam, nak cakap Islam pergi masjid la beb?"
Bagi yang mengatakan Islam yang Rasulullah s.a.w bawa itu kuno, mengongkong, dan segala nista, saya ingin mengajak kita sama-sama renung satu kisah sirah nabawi ketika Baginda menunaikan Haji Wida', haji yang terakhir Baginda. Baginda memberikan satu khutbah umum yang terakhir dalam hidupnya. Salah satu aspek yang Baginda sentuh adalah berkenaan kaum Hawa.
"Wahai Manusia Sebagaimana kamu mempunyai hak atas isteri kamu mereka juga mempunyai hak di atas kamu. Sekiranya mereka menyempurnakan hak mereka keatas kamu, maka mereka, juga berhak untuk diberi makan dan pakaian dalam suasana kasih sayang.
Layanilah wanita-wanita kamu dengan baik dan berlemah-lembutlah terhadap mereka kerana sesungguhnya mereka adalah teman dan pembantu kamu yang setia. Dan hak kamu atas mereka ialah mereka sama sekali tidak boleh memasukkan orang yang kamu tidak sukai ke dalam rumah kamu dan dilarang melakukan zina." Rasulullah s.a.w.
Inilah insan yang mempertegaskan hak wanita, inilah jua insan yang anda katakan kolot. Inilah insan yang menyuruh melayani wanita dengan kasih sayang, inilah jua insan yang anda katakan mengongkong. Inilah insan yang melayani wanita dengan lemah-lembut, inilah jua insan yang anda katakan out of date.
Skrip Berulang
Jika kita melihat senario di atas, modus operandi hingga terjadinya zina dan sama waktu dengannya adalah mudah dan berulang-ulang kisahnya.
01.Berkenalan.
02.Lelaki berlakon baik atau memang baik pada awalnya.
03.Perempuan terkesima dengan baik budi dan ayat si lelaki.
04.Keluar bersama untuk kali pertama dan lelaki itu kelihatan sungguh baik dan sopan.
05.Hubungan semakin rapat dan lelaki meminta berpegangan tangan.
06.Perempuan bertegas menolak, dipujuk dan dipujuk.
07.Akhirnya layu... dan pergilah ke babak yang seterusnya.
Mudah sahaja skrip cinta masyarakat sekarang. Dan skrip inilah yang membawa kecelakaan kepada masyarakat.
Menjadi tanda soal, haruskah hubungan lelaki dan wanita berakhir seperti ini? Adakah semudah itu untuk mencairkan hati seorang wanita. Cukup sekadar ayat power, muka kacak, dan belanja makan yang tidak seberapa. Dan siap untuk menyerah diri untuk disembelih sang lelaki. Kambing yang abah jual pun harga RM400 seekor, takkan belanja makan yang tidak sampai RM50 sudah layu.
Kelebihan lelaki ialah pandai memujuk dan berlakon, dan kelemahan wanita adalah mudah dipujuk rayu dan ditipu. Oleh sebab itu, Islam melihat isu hubungan lelaki dan wanita ini cukup penting untuk disentuh. kerana disini letak titik jatuh bangun ummah. Mahu lihat masa depan Islam, lihatlah pada pemuda-pemudinya. Jika pemuda-pemudinya kaki rempit, masa depan Islam "rempit" jugalah jawabnya.
Sunnah dalam Hubungan Lelaki dan Wanita
"Kenapa dia naik motor dengan perempuan tu? Ada apa-apa urusan mendesak ke sampai perlu macam itu?" saya bertanya kepada seorang rakan.
"Entah tak pasti pulak kenapa. Tapi ada orang bagi tahu mungkin salah satu cara dakwah kot," jawab dia bersahaja.
"Dakwah apa? Apa yang dia tahu dengan dakwah seperti itu? Mengangkat perempuan itu dari satu lubang neraka dengan meletakkan ke dalam lubang neraka yang lain. Kali ini dengan lelaki itu masuk lubang sekali. Dakwah itu luas, tetapi masih tidak berkompromi dengan bersalut kemaksiatan," saya menjawab. Mengaitkan tindakan itu dengan Islam dan dakwah pula.
Islam itu meraikan fitrah. Jika anda suka kepada perempuan, bersyukurlah kerana anda normal dan bukan gay. Jika si gadis tertawan dengan sang lelaki, itu juga normal dan tidaklah berdosa dalam Islam. Tetapi ada aturannya...
01.Ramai pasangan keluar berdua-duaan tidak kiralah sama ada pergi shopping, dating, atau ke masjid sekalipun. Ketahuilah itu dilarang sama sekali. Bagi yang sudah bertunang sekalipun aturannya tetap ketat. Keluar dibolehkan tetapi dengan syarat ditemani oleh mahram yang (1)tsiqah. Ada yang mengajak teman, sedangkan teman yang diajak itu merapu dan tidak tahu hukum-hakam.
02.Kurangkan komunikasi yang tidak berkenaan. Isi perbincangan seharusnya dikawal. Isi pun dikawal, gantiaan nama seperti ayang itik, abang, ucuk dan segala hal lagilah bersalahan dengan syarak.
03.Tidak boleh bersentuhan sama sekali. Jadi diharap tiadalah dialog: "Saya dan dia cukup menjaga. Kami tidak melakukan larangan. Paling tidak pun hanya sekadar berpegangan tangan saja." Pegang tangan sahaja... hurm.
04.Elakkan fitnah daripaada masyarakat sekeliling. Mahu elakkan fitnah, jangan cipta fitnah. Jangan salahkan masyarakat mengata, sedangkan diri dengan pasangan kelakuan sumbang.
05.Berkaitan gambar. Melihat aurat sudah semestinya sudah salah. Sekarang trend menjadikan gambar pasangan sebagai wallpaper telefon bimbit, laptop bahkan menjadi primary picture di Facebook dan Friendster. Dua kali salah! Dilarang bertukar gambar tanpa sebab yang syarie'.
06.Jika semua ini kita tidak mampu lakukan dan penyelesaian pernikahan itu masih jauh perjalanannya. Putuskanlah hubungan itu dengan serta-merta. Pedih lagi sedih. Memang! Tetapi itulah mujahadah. Rintangan dihadapan lagi besar dan memerlukan lebih tinggi mujahadahnya berbanding putuskan hubungan itu. Percayalah, jika niat semua itu kerana Allah s.w.t., Dia akan gantikan duka lara hati dengan kegembiraan lebih besar daripada itu.
Selepas melihat semakin rosaknya umat sekarang, bagi saya adalah satu keperluan untuk membina satu keluarga contoh. (2)Sakinah dan (3)mawaddah sudah menjadi kewajipan setiap insan yang mengaku beriman. Melahir dan mendidik generasi baru sebagai penyambung mata rantai perjuangan Baginda sudah menjadi tuntutan yang vital.
Kepada lelaki, hormatilah wanita seperti Baginda menghormati mereka. Kepada wanita, lebihkan menjadi daripada mencari dan kuatlah dalam berprinsip. Tetapi sebelum kita mahu bina keluarga Muslim lagi mukmin, mulakan dengan melihat dan memilih calon ibu kepada anak-anak kita. Dan lihat dan pilihlah calon bapa kepada anak-anak kita. Itu tapaknya, jika mahu kukuh bangunannya! Anda mencari, saya mendoakan...
Glosari
(1) Tsiqah: Terpercaya daripada segi agama dan matang dalam tindakan.
(2) Sakinah: Tenang, tenteram.
(3) Mawaddah: Kasih sayang, terutamanya dalam hubungan antara suami isteri.
Sharing and Caring
"Saya dan dia sudah kenal lama... kami mahu berkahwin tetapi keluarga pihak lelaki tidak bersetuju. Dan sekarang kami sudah terlanjur dan ingin bertaubat."
"Kami sudah bertunang... dia sebenarnya seorang lelaki yang baik. Tetapi akhirnya kami tewas dengan desakan nafsu masing-masing."
"Pada awal jumpa dengan saya dia seorang lelaki yang baik dan hormati saya. Pertemuan kami yang pertama di Shopping Mall. Selepas dua tiga kali bertemu kami tidak melakukan hal terlarang melainkan hanya berpegangan tangan. Selepas itu, dia minta lebih. Awalnya saya bertegas, tetapi layu dalam pujukan dia."
Itu komen-komen di blog seorang ustaz. Dan sekarang pula cerita di akhbar tabloid negara.
Seorang mangsa, Rozie, 20, dari Ampang tidak menyangka perkenalan dengan seorang jejaka melalui laman sosial Facebook bakal menjadi titik hitam dalam hidupnya. Katanya, menerusi laman sosial itu, Boy dilihat seolah-olah tidak mempunyai ramai rakan perempuan berikutan tiada kenalan wanita dalam senarai sahabatnya. "Ini menyebabkan saya menganggap Boy bukan kaki perempuan dan boleh dipercayai. "Kami bertemu buat kali pertama apabila dia mengajak saya ke majlis hari jadi rakannya," kata Rozie yang jatuh cinta dengan Boy yang bersopan-santun dan pandai menjaga hatinya."Di tempat kerja, saya kerap diganggu lelaki, tetapi Boy pula sering mengambil berat dengan menjaga saya daripada diganggu mereka," katanya yang bertugas sebagai pakar kecantikan di ibu kota. Akibat terlalu percayakan lelaki itu, Rozie mengandung hasil hubungan terlarang mereka selepas setahun menjalin cinta.
Itulah satu daripada ribuan cerita liku kehidupan masyarakat pada masa sekarang. Denga hanya internet penyambung hubungan. Allah, Rasul, keluarga dan maruh ditolak ke tepi. Semuanya atas nama cinta.
Sungguh mereka tidak mengerti untuk membezakan apa itu CINTA dan apa itu NAFSU.
Kasih Rasul Terhadap Wanita
Dalam sejarah umat, insan yang paling kasih dan cinta kepada wanita ialah Rasulullah s.a.w. Tidak sedikit usaha, teguran dan tindakan yang dibuat dalam menterjemahkan perasaan cinta Baginda terhadap kaum hawa ini. Tetapi sering kali kita mengabaikan bahkan memperlekehkan nasihat Baginda.
"Islam ini kuno. Itu tak boleh, ini tak boleh. Tension tahu!"
"Mak ayah aku pun tak bising... yang kau bawa al-Quran dan hadis segala ini buat apa. Sikit-sikit Islam, nak cakap Islam pergi masjid la beb?"
Bagi yang mengatakan Islam yang Rasulullah s.a.w bawa itu kuno, mengongkong, dan segala nista, saya ingin mengajak kita sama-sama renung satu kisah sirah nabawi ketika Baginda menunaikan Haji Wida', haji yang terakhir Baginda. Baginda memberikan satu khutbah umum yang terakhir dalam hidupnya. Salah satu aspek yang Baginda sentuh adalah berkenaan kaum Hawa.
"Wahai Manusia Sebagaimana kamu mempunyai hak atas isteri kamu mereka juga mempunyai hak di atas kamu. Sekiranya mereka menyempurnakan hak mereka keatas kamu, maka mereka, juga berhak untuk diberi makan dan pakaian dalam suasana kasih sayang.
Layanilah wanita-wanita kamu dengan baik dan berlemah-lembutlah terhadap mereka kerana sesungguhnya mereka adalah teman dan pembantu kamu yang setia. Dan hak kamu atas mereka ialah mereka sama sekali tidak boleh memasukkan orang yang kamu tidak sukai ke dalam rumah kamu dan dilarang melakukan zina." Rasulullah s.a.w.
Inilah insan yang mempertegaskan hak wanita, inilah jua insan yang anda katakan kolot. Inilah insan yang menyuruh melayani wanita dengan kasih sayang, inilah jua insan yang anda katakan mengongkong. Inilah insan yang melayani wanita dengan lemah-lembut, inilah jua insan yang anda katakan out of date.
Skrip Berulang
Jika kita melihat senario di atas, modus operandi hingga terjadinya zina dan sama waktu dengannya adalah mudah dan berulang-ulang kisahnya.
01.Berkenalan.
02.Lelaki berlakon baik atau memang baik pada awalnya.
03.Perempuan terkesima dengan baik budi dan ayat si lelaki.
04.Keluar bersama untuk kali pertama dan lelaki itu kelihatan sungguh baik dan sopan.
05.Hubungan semakin rapat dan lelaki meminta berpegangan tangan.
06.Perempuan bertegas menolak, dipujuk dan dipujuk.
07.Akhirnya layu... dan pergilah ke babak yang seterusnya.
Mudah sahaja skrip cinta masyarakat sekarang. Dan skrip inilah yang membawa kecelakaan kepada masyarakat.
Menjadi tanda soal, haruskah hubungan lelaki dan wanita berakhir seperti ini? Adakah semudah itu untuk mencairkan hati seorang wanita. Cukup sekadar ayat power, muka kacak, dan belanja makan yang tidak seberapa. Dan siap untuk menyerah diri untuk disembelih sang lelaki. Kambing yang abah jual pun harga RM400 seekor, takkan belanja makan yang tidak sampai RM50 sudah layu.
Kelebihan lelaki ialah pandai memujuk dan berlakon, dan kelemahan wanita adalah mudah dipujuk rayu dan ditipu. Oleh sebab itu, Islam melihat isu hubungan lelaki dan wanita ini cukup penting untuk disentuh. kerana disini letak titik jatuh bangun ummah. Mahu lihat masa depan Islam, lihatlah pada pemuda-pemudinya. Jika pemuda-pemudinya kaki rempit, masa depan Islam "rempit" jugalah jawabnya.
Sunnah dalam Hubungan Lelaki dan Wanita
"Kenapa dia naik motor dengan perempuan tu? Ada apa-apa urusan mendesak ke sampai perlu macam itu?" saya bertanya kepada seorang rakan.
"Entah tak pasti pulak kenapa. Tapi ada orang bagi tahu mungkin salah satu cara dakwah kot," jawab dia bersahaja.
"Dakwah apa? Apa yang dia tahu dengan dakwah seperti itu? Mengangkat perempuan itu dari satu lubang neraka dengan meletakkan ke dalam lubang neraka yang lain. Kali ini dengan lelaki itu masuk lubang sekali. Dakwah itu luas, tetapi masih tidak berkompromi dengan bersalut kemaksiatan," saya menjawab. Mengaitkan tindakan itu dengan Islam dan dakwah pula.
Islam itu meraikan fitrah. Jika anda suka kepada perempuan, bersyukurlah kerana anda normal dan bukan gay. Jika si gadis tertawan dengan sang lelaki, itu juga normal dan tidaklah berdosa dalam Islam. Tetapi ada aturannya...
01.Ramai pasangan keluar berdua-duaan tidak kiralah sama ada pergi shopping, dating, atau ke masjid sekalipun. Ketahuilah itu dilarang sama sekali. Bagi yang sudah bertunang sekalipun aturannya tetap ketat. Keluar dibolehkan tetapi dengan syarat ditemani oleh mahram yang (1)tsiqah. Ada yang mengajak teman, sedangkan teman yang diajak itu merapu dan tidak tahu hukum-hakam.
02.Kurangkan komunikasi yang tidak berkenaan. Isi perbincangan seharusnya dikawal. Isi pun dikawal, gantiaan nama seperti ayang itik, abang, ucuk dan segala hal lagilah bersalahan dengan syarak.
03.Tidak boleh bersentuhan sama sekali. Jadi diharap tiadalah dialog: "Saya dan dia cukup menjaga. Kami tidak melakukan larangan. Paling tidak pun hanya sekadar berpegangan tangan saja." Pegang tangan sahaja... hurm.
04.Elakkan fitnah daripaada masyarakat sekeliling. Mahu elakkan fitnah, jangan cipta fitnah. Jangan salahkan masyarakat mengata, sedangkan diri dengan pasangan kelakuan sumbang.
05.Berkaitan gambar. Melihat aurat sudah semestinya sudah salah. Sekarang trend menjadikan gambar pasangan sebagai wallpaper telefon bimbit, laptop bahkan menjadi primary picture di Facebook dan Friendster. Dua kali salah! Dilarang bertukar gambar tanpa sebab yang syarie'.
06.Jika semua ini kita tidak mampu lakukan dan penyelesaian pernikahan itu masih jauh perjalanannya. Putuskanlah hubungan itu dengan serta-merta. Pedih lagi sedih. Memang! Tetapi itulah mujahadah. Rintangan dihadapan lagi besar dan memerlukan lebih tinggi mujahadahnya berbanding putuskan hubungan itu. Percayalah, jika niat semua itu kerana Allah s.w.t., Dia akan gantikan duka lara hati dengan kegembiraan lebih besar daripada itu.
Selepas melihat semakin rosaknya umat sekarang, bagi saya adalah satu keperluan untuk membina satu keluarga contoh. (2)Sakinah dan (3)mawaddah sudah menjadi kewajipan setiap insan yang mengaku beriman. Melahir dan mendidik generasi baru sebagai penyambung mata rantai perjuangan Baginda sudah menjadi tuntutan yang vital.
Kepada lelaki, hormatilah wanita seperti Baginda menghormati mereka. Kepada wanita, lebihkan menjadi daripada mencari dan kuatlah dalam berprinsip. Tetapi sebelum kita mahu bina keluarga Muslim lagi mukmin, mulakan dengan melihat dan memilih calon ibu kepada anak-anak kita. Dan lihat dan pilihlah calon bapa kepada anak-anak kita. Itu tapaknya, jika mahu kukuh bangunannya! Anda mencari, saya mendoakan...
Glosari
(1) Tsiqah: Terpercaya daripada segi agama dan matang dalam tindakan.
(2) Sakinah: Tenang, tenteram.
(3) Mawaddah: Kasih sayang, terutamanya dalam hubungan antara suami isteri.
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Islamic Sites Containing False Information About Islam Please spread this information. To all the Muslim brothers and sisters around the world.
A Muslim somewhere in the world could be receiving false information about Islam. So prevent that from happening. PLEASE! Beware of the following websites:
www.answering-islam.org
www.aboutislam.com
www.thequran.com
www.allahassurance.com
These sites have been developed by Jews. Who Intentionally are spreading wrong information about the QURAN , the HADITH and ISLAM itself.
Please spread this information
To all the Muslim brothers and sisters around the world. The list of traced anti- Islamic websites, about Islam are:
1. http://www.islamreview.com/
This site has posted fake stories of how Muslims converted to Christianity. How do I know? Read the following excerpt from one of the stories:
First the ‘convert’ says: (emphasis added). In the end, I managed to convince my mother, as it was for Allah and I joined the Islamic College. Having graduated as an ustaz, I was soon posted to my neighbourhood…
And then:
My trip to Mecca for the Haj (pilgrimage) was tiring but eventful. I did not have the rare opportunity to see inside the holy Kabah and the holy idols inside, which Prophet Muhammud had helped to place, as explained in Bukhari’s Hadith
An Ustaz (scholar) in Islaamic Studies is saying that there are idols inside the Kabah and that too placed by Muhammad (saw) himself!?!?! This clearly shows that the author is deliberately trying to spread misinformation about Islaam and wants to convey to possible reverts to Islaam that it is religion of idol worship.
In fact most of the Christian sites use this tactic of false convert stories but it’s not always possible to prove it.
2. http://www.faithfreedom.org/
AlhamduliLlaah I was able to catch another site posting fake stories of Muslims leaving Islaam. See the false information imparted here. That the attempt is deliberate is known through the claim that the ‘convert’ has done detailed study about the topic.
For Islamic Education, I had to study about marriage in detail to do well. So, I learnt all the stuff and got the highest grade anyone can get for Islamic Education. And guess what? Because I know it so well, I know that there is a lot of discrimination against women in Islam.
Things like a father and grandfather can marry a girl/woman to whomever they want even if the girl/woman doesn’t want to marry that person… In addition, I learned things like women couldn’t be witnesses in Syariah Courts and things like that . The first point here is a total lie whereas the second is a distorted version of the truth.
3. http://www.answering-islam.org/Testimonies/younathan.html
Here’s yet another extract from a false convert story aimed at spreading misinformation about Islaam. As I started thinking about my life and the Quran, I realized all Muslims, even the prophet Muhammad, would go to Hell for certain sins they committed in their lifetime.
This is a common ploy of the Christian Missionaries. They first inform gullible victims that Jesus (God) is Love and just by believing in the Crucifixion, you will be assured of Paradise. Whereas the concept of God in Islaam is so harsh that no one will be spared from Hell and that even Prophet Muhammad (saw) was not sure of where he would end up. For this purpose they quote an ayat of the Qur’aan out of context.
Here there have gone a step further by saying that even our beloved Prophet (saw) would have to go through hell. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Anti Islaamic Sites under misleading names:
4. http://www.muslimhope.com/
5. http://www.islameyat.com/
6. http://www.islamreview.com
7. http://www.muhammadanism.com/
8. http://thespiritofislam.com/index.html
9. http://www.abrahamic-faith.com/
10. http://www.gnfcw.com/
11. http://www.knowislam.info/drupal/mno
12. http://www.homa.org/
13. http://www.thequran.com/
14. http://www.allahassurance.com/
15. http://www.mosque.com/
16. http://thespiritofislam.com/index.html
17. http://www.newislam.org/
Anti Islaamic Sites apparent even by name
18. http://www.islam-exposed.org/
19. http://answering-islam.org.uk/
20. http://www.answeringinfidels.com/
21. http://www.islamundressed.com/
22. http://www.studytoanswer.net/myths_ch1.html
23. http://www.challenging-islam.org/submissions/shariah.htm
24. www.answering-islam.org
25. http://www.islamundressed.com/
26. http://www.exmuslim.com/
27. http://www.answeringinfidels.com/
28. http://www.gnfcw.com/
29. http://www.dhimmi.com/
30. http://www.chick.com/information/religions/islam/
31. http://www.acage.org/
32. http://www.apostatesofislam.com/
33. http://www.secularislam.org/
34. http://www.muslim-refusenik.com/
35. http://www.icapi.org/
36. http://www.hesetsfree.org/
37. http://www.letusreason.org/Islamdir.htm
38. http://www.kafirnation.com/
39. http://www.jihadwatch.org/
40. http://www.anti-cair-net.org/
41. http://apostatesofislam.com/
42. http://challenging-islam.org/
Always check the source of any Islamic web site even if it is very convincing.
A FAKE AMERICAN QUR’AN (The FURQAN QUR’AN)
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/1579211755/qid%3D1096805827/102-4933271-2395342
PLEASE DO NOT ignore this. FORWARD this to as many Muslims as you can. The new AMERICAN Qur’an:
a dangerous trick. A new Quran is being distributed in Kuwait , titled ‘The True Furqan’. It is being described as the verses of the Shaytan and Al-Furqan weekly magazine has found out that the two American companies, ‘Omega 2001′ and ‘Wine Press’ are involved in the publishing of ‘ The True Furqan ‘, a book which has also been titled ‘ The 21st Century Qur’an ‘! It is over 366 pages and is in both the Arabic and English languages…it is being distributed to our children in Kuwait in the private English schools!
The book contains 77 Surats, which include Al-Fatiha, Al-Jana and Al-Injil. Instead of Bismillah, each Surat begins with a longer version of this incorporating the Christian belief of the three spirits. And this so called Qur’an opposes many Islamic beliefs. In one of its verses it describes having more than one wife as fornication, divorce being non-permissible and it uses a new system for the sharing out of the will, opposing the current one. It states that Jihad is HARAM.
This book even goes as far as attacking God Almighty Allah! All this is poisoning our children at approx. $3. Brothers and Sisters please make sure you forward this email to as many people as possible so that we can stop this dangerous trick.
May Allah reward you. Amin
A Muslim somewhere in the world could be receiving false information about Islam. So prevent that from happening. PLEASE! Beware of the following websites:
www.answering-islam.org
www.aboutislam.com
www.thequran.com
www.allahassurance.com
These sites have been developed by Jews. Who Intentionally are spreading wrong information about the QURAN , the HADITH and ISLAM itself.
Please spread this information
To all the Muslim brothers and sisters around the world. The list of traced anti- Islamic websites, about Islam are:
1. http://www.islamreview.com/
This site has posted fake stories of how Muslims converted to Christianity. How do I know? Read the following excerpt from one of the stories:
First the ‘convert’ says: (emphasis added). In the end, I managed to convince my mother, as it was for Allah and I joined the Islamic College. Having graduated as an ustaz, I was soon posted to my neighbourhood…
And then:
My trip to Mecca for the Haj (pilgrimage) was tiring but eventful. I did not have the rare opportunity to see inside the holy Kabah and the holy idols inside, which Prophet Muhammud had helped to place, as explained in Bukhari’s Hadith
An Ustaz (scholar) in Islaamic Studies is saying that there are idols inside the Kabah and that too placed by Muhammad (saw) himself!?!?! This clearly shows that the author is deliberately trying to spread misinformation about Islaam and wants to convey to possible reverts to Islaam that it is religion of idol worship.
In fact most of the Christian sites use this tactic of false convert stories but it’s not always possible to prove it.
2. http://www.faithfreedom.org/
AlhamduliLlaah I was able to catch another site posting fake stories of Muslims leaving Islaam. See the false information imparted here. That the attempt is deliberate is known through the claim that the ‘convert’ has done detailed study about the topic.
For Islamic Education, I had to study about marriage in detail to do well. So, I learnt all the stuff and got the highest grade anyone can get for Islamic Education. And guess what? Because I know it so well, I know that there is a lot of discrimination against women in Islam.
Things like a father and grandfather can marry a girl/woman to whomever they want even if the girl/woman doesn’t want to marry that person… In addition, I learned things like women couldn’t be witnesses in Syariah Courts and things like that . The first point here is a total lie whereas the second is a distorted version of the truth.
3. http://www.answering-islam.org/Testimonies/younathan.html
Here’s yet another extract from a false convert story aimed at spreading misinformation about Islaam. As I started thinking about my life and the Quran, I realized all Muslims, even the prophet Muhammad, would go to Hell for certain sins they committed in their lifetime.
This is a common ploy of the Christian Missionaries. They first inform gullible victims that Jesus (God) is Love and just by believing in the Crucifixion, you will be assured of Paradise. Whereas the concept of God in Islaam is so harsh that no one will be spared from Hell and that even Prophet Muhammad (saw) was not sure of where he would end up. For this purpose they quote an ayat of the Qur’aan out of context.
Here there have gone a step further by saying that even our beloved Prophet (saw) would have to go through hell. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Anti Islaamic Sites under misleading names:
4. http://www.muslimhope.com/
5. http://www.islameyat.com/
6. http://www.islamreview.com
7. http://www.muhammadanism.com/
8. http://thespiritofislam.com/index.html
9. http://www.abrahamic-faith.com/
10. http://www.gnfcw.com/
11. http://www.knowislam.info/drupal/mno
12. http://www.homa.org/
13. http://www.thequran.com/
14. http://www.allahassurance.com/
15. http://www.mosque.com/
16. http://thespiritofislam.com/index.html
17. http://www.newislam.org/
Anti Islaamic Sites apparent even by name
18. http://www.islam-exposed.org/
19. http://answering-islam.org.uk/
20. http://www.answeringinfidels.com/
21. http://www.islamundressed.com/
22. http://www.studytoanswer.net/myths_ch1.html
23. http://www.challenging-islam.org/submissions/shariah.htm
24. www.answering-islam.org
25. http://www.islamundressed.com/
26. http://www.exmuslim.com/
27. http://www.answeringinfidels.com/
28. http://www.gnfcw.com/
29. http://www.dhimmi.com/
30. http://www.chick.com/information/religions/islam/
31. http://www.acage.org/
32. http://www.apostatesofislam.com/
33. http://www.secularislam.org/
34. http://www.muslim-refusenik.com/
35. http://www.icapi.org/
36. http://www.hesetsfree.org/
37. http://www.letusreason.org/Islamdir.htm
38. http://www.kafirnation.com/
39. http://www.jihadwatch.org/
40. http://www.anti-cair-net.org/
41. http://apostatesofislam.com/
42. http://challenging-islam.org/
Always check the source of any Islamic web site even if it is very convincing.
A FAKE AMERICAN QUR’AN (The FURQAN QUR’AN)
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/1579211755/qid%3D1096805827/102-4933271-2395342
PLEASE DO NOT ignore this. FORWARD this to as many Muslims as you can. The new AMERICAN Qur’an:
a dangerous trick. A new Quran is being distributed in Kuwait , titled ‘The True Furqan’. It is being described as the verses of the Shaytan and Al-Furqan weekly magazine has found out that the two American companies, ‘Omega 2001′ and ‘Wine Press’ are involved in the publishing of ‘ The True Furqan ‘, a book which has also been titled ‘ The 21st Century Qur’an ‘! It is over 366 pages and is in both the Arabic and English languages…it is being distributed to our children in Kuwait in the private English schools!
The book contains 77 Surats, which include Al-Fatiha, Al-Jana and Al-Injil. Instead of Bismillah, each Surat begins with a longer version of this incorporating the Christian belief of the three spirits. And this so called Qur’an opposes many Islamic beliefs. In one of its verses it describes having more than one wife as fornication, divorce being non-permissible and it uses a new system for the sharing out of the will, opposing the current one. It states that Jihad is HARAM.
This book even goes as far as attacking God Almighty Allah! All this is poisoning our children at approx. $3. Brothers and Sisters please make sure you forward this email to as many people as possible so that we can stop this dangerous trick.
May Allah reward you. Amin
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